The following is guest blog by: Kortney Peagram, Ph.D. from Bulldog Solution Inc
Do you ever wonder how bullying or cyberbullying can be eliminated? In my field of work, we see conflict, bullying, drama, cyberbullying, and violence. Parents are often left to figure out what to do to prevent, intervene, and address bullying and cyberbullying. The “how to” is the hardest, which is why I have come up with some tips to make it easy for you!
9 Strategies for Help with Bullying
- Talk about bullying, drama, and teasing before it happens. Let your child know that you can talk about this type of behavior. You want to create a safe place for your child to share information. Ask about their current friendships and conflicts. Learn more about their daily interactions with peers.
- Try to find out what happened and the people involved. Remember there is two sides to a story and you want to be informed. This is difficult because drama and bullying is hurtful. You want the most accurate description of the situation. Knowledge is power!
- Teach your children to speak up and tell teachers, staff, and the principal as soon as the incident occurs. They are trained to handle the situation and help resolve conflict. Find out your school’s protocol and policy about bullying.
- Share a story about your experience with bullying. Have your child understand that he/she is not alone. Explain some of the challenges you faced growing up.
- Model appropriate behavior. Avoid gossiping with parents about the incident. Your child might be embarrassed and alienated about the situation. You want to protect your child and be a trusted source.
- Explain the difference between tattling and telling. Tattling is when a child tries to get someone in trouble. Telling is when a child tries to keep someone from getting hurt mentally or physically.
- Do not confront the perpetrator before talking to a principal or a teacher. You want to use the right channel of communication to resolve the situation. Remember that reacting aggressively might escalate the incident.
- Teach and model healthy assertiveness. Give your child compliments and work on identifying his/her strengths and likes. Practice positive affirmations in your home. Share what you love about each other.
- Get to know the parents of your child’s friends. Developing a strong support system and communication helps resolve these situations.
These are tons of strategies that can help you navigate these difficult situations with your child. It is about finding the strategies that work for you. The more you can develop your child’s social skills, the more you can instill confidence and leadership.
About the Author:
Kortney Peagram, Ph.D. of Bulldog Solution Inc www.bulldogsolutioninc.com
Mission: To eradicate bullying through social boldness, kindness, and connection.What We Do: We run programs in schools to prevent and intervene with bullying, cyberbullying, and build social emotional skills.